Can we be done with the mommy wars already? Someone, anyone, can I get an Amen?
Leslie Morgan Steiner recently released out with her book of essays where "stay-at-home and career moms face off on their choices." Why do they need to face off? Why perpetuate the stereotype that these two groups of women are in a heated battle? Why? I refuse to read Mommy Wars for two reasons. First, I am so over books analyzing motherhood. Second, I'm not at war. This is war.
I'm just a mom who loves my family and loves to write. I've done the career thang and the stay at home thang. Do I care what another mom thinks of my decisions. Hell. no. Do I want you to care? Hell. no. (Unless you're Noah Drake.)
Yes, the role of motherhood is complex. It's hard work. It's life altering. It's good, bad, gorgeous and ugly. There are women - and men - who may agree or disagree with a mom's choice to work or not work. To slashmom it or just mom it. Do we read books about moms "facing off" against dads? No. Dads "facing off" against dads? No.
Instead of books dissecting why moms feel compelled to mouth off against other moms, why not write a book the celebrates ALL types of moms in a fashion that does not pit one against the other. Why not write a book the empowers women. WHY WHY WHY write about moms and announce we're "at war."
To sell books. To fuel the fire for more people to write more books about these so-called wars.
Moms may disagree with other moms, and be very passionate about their beliefs. But could authors and writers stop labeling us as embroiled in a heated and bitter debate over each others lives? Gawd. It's worse than Sally-Jessie Raphael.